At the end of this month, my daughter’s best friend, Silver, will be moving across the state, a 4-hour drive, with her family. Maisy and Silver have been friends for nearly 8 years, which is impressive given that my daughter won’t turn 9 for another 2 weeks. Their friendship began before their memories of it do; for both of them it’s just always been there. So to celebrate the end of another year of great storytelling at Tell Us A Story, we’re celebrating the end of one great chapter of my daughter’s life (and the beginning of a new one).
Me: What is your first memory of meeting each other?
Maisy: I remember our first sleep over. I was 2 and a half. We ate pizza!
Me: Wait a minute, there’s NO way you could remember that. You’re way too young.
Silver: I don’t remember much from before kindergarten.
Maisy: Oh wait a minute! I remember our first day of school, realizing that we’d be at the same school…
Me: You guys didn’t know that ahead of time?
Silver: But then we found out that we weren’t in the same class. That was kind of sad.
Leslie (Silver’s Mom): Do you remember spending time together in the Town Common? When we’d go and listen to music?
Maisy: Oh yeah and we’d run down that hill and yell “Wheeee”?
Me: What else do you remember?
Silver: I have this picture of me in my stroller and Maisy in her stroller, of us playing with Mr. Potato Head.
Maisy: There’s a picture from my Pirate and Princess birthday party [her 5th birthday] and everyone’s all dressed up…
Silver: I remember that, too, that was really awesome…
Me: So those are some of your earliest memories?
Silver: [laughing] The good old days!
Maisy: Good times, good times.
Silver: You know, we’re not that old yet. So they’re not really “old” days.
Zach (Maisy’s Dad): But you’re over twice as old as you were in those pictures.
[interview falls into chaos for several minutes as the girls discover that yelling into the recorder makes the audio graph move]
Me: Maisy, tell me your favorite thing about Silver.
Maisy: Ummmm. She’s a good friend.
Me: What does that mean?
Maisy: It means she’s there for me, she sticks up for me, and she’s been my friend for a very, very, very, very…
[here Silver joins in on the “verys”]
Maisy: Well, you get the idea.
Me: Silver, what’s your favorite thing about Maisy?
Silver: She can be extremely funny when she tries. She is loyal. And, like Maisy says, we’ve been friends for a very long time, so we bonded.
Maisy: Yadda, yadda, yadda,
Silver: And all that stuff.
Me: Maisy, what is your favorite thing to do when you’re hanging out with Silver?
Maisy: It depends on where we are and what we have…
Silver: And so on and so forth…
Maisy: Et cetera, et cetera…So give me a certain place…
Me: Okay, what’s your favorite thing to do in Maisy’s bedroom?
Maisy: We usually talk or play games.
Silver: Or read a bit.
Maisy: Sometimes we draw, like we were doing today.
Me: What do you talk about when you talk?
Silver: [laughing] We can’t remember…
Maisy: There’s no certain thing we talk about. It’s always different.
Maisy: Sometimes we talk about an event that’s coming up, sometimes we talk about a sleep over that’s coming up, you know, anything that’s coming up. Or something just out of the blue that we want to talk about.
Me: Silver, when you’re at your house, in your room, what’s your favorite thing to do when Maisy comes over?
Silver: Film our Lego show.
Me: What’s a Lego Show?
Silver: Well, the Lego Show is something we made up.
Maisy: We made it up and this one time we were playing with her Legos and were like, one of us was like…
Silver: “Hey!!! We should film this!”
Maisy: So at the end, so something happened, and then we said, “What will happen next? Find out on the…”
Unison: “…Lego Show!”
Maisy: And then Silver’s like “Maybe we should do that!” And we made up names for the characters and everything.
Silver: It’s really fun.
Maisy: We’re probably gonna put it on YouTube.
Me: Yeah, you guys have had a lot of “You Tube Ideas”…
Me: …but none of them have really panned out. Why do you think that is?
Silver: Well, it could be because…we haven’t had enough playdates.
Silver: But we need to fit in as many playdates as we possibly can before I move.
Me: Maisy, I have a question for you. How did you feel when you first found out that Silver was moving?
Maisy: Well, at first it just hit me, it just came straight out and I just like “uhhhhh.” So at first I had no feeling at all because I was waiting for that to process in my brain and then I felt a big wave of sadness and I was just like [makes whistling noise]. And then I started looking at the good side…
Me: And what’s the good side?
Maisy: The good side is I won’t be talking to anyone in class.
Silver: And you get to visit us in Asheville!
Maisy: [glumly] I will. And another good side, is that it’s basically like going on vacation and going to your friend’s house AT THE SAME TIME.
Leslie: So when you found out we were moving Asheville, the three of us were sitting together and we told you and the first thing you did was you told us you loved us and you hugged us. We were sitting on the playground at Greenville Montessori School.
Me: So how about you, Silver? ‘Cause you’re not only leaving Maisy, you’re going to start a brand new life in a new city. How did you feel?
Silver: When I found out we were moving? Well, like Maisy said, it just hit me and I was waiting for it to process and then I was like “OH THAT’S GREAT! LET’S…wait. What? We’re moving!?”
Leslie: [shakes her head, makes noises] No.
Silver: You tell your version.
Leslie: Well, I told you I got the job in Asheville and you said “Awesome! You’re going to take it, right?” And I said, “Of course I am.” And then the next thing out of your mouth? “What about Maisy?”
Leslie: There was no pause before the second thing.
Me: How do you feel about moving now? What are the pluses?
Silver: Well, the pluses are certainly: I’m going to my first choice school, Asheville’s awesome [long pause] there are mountains, and we’ll be able to fish and hike. And then the downsides are: leaving all my friends.
Me: So I have one last question for you both: in 9 years you will both be graduating from high school, you’ll be 18. What will your friendship look like then?
Maisy: A lot of times Silver and I used to make, like, plans for when we grew up, for like, when we’re older. So we’re gonna graduate from Monetssori, then we’re gonna go to this awesome middle school, and then this awesome high school, and we’re gonna have really good grades, and we’ll try to get into the same college. Then we’re gonna graduate from college and then we’re gonna get awesome jobs and we’re gonna be best friends FOREVER.
Me: Well that can still happen.
Maisy: But not in the same way. So I started thinking about that. At first I thought life would just go on as normal, without Silver being here. But then I thought “What about those plans we made!?”
Silver: Maisy, I had a feeling none of those things were gonna come true anyways.
Leslie: My pragmatic girl.
Me: She is pragmatic.
Silver: What does that mean?
Me: It means you’re realistic about things.
Silver: Thank you, that’s a great compliment!
Me: It is a compliment.
Maisy: I like to use my imagination.
Silver: So do I!
Me: Same question to Silver: what will your friendship be like in 9 years?
Silver: Well, I don’t think we’ll be as close as we are now because we won’t be able to see each other much, but I’m sure we’ll still be very good friends.
Me: How will you keep up the friendship?
Maisy: Writing! We plan to write at least once a week. The mail from Asheville to Greenville should be pretty quick.
Silver: It should take 5 days.
Zach: It may be time for you girls to get email accounts.
Maisy: I have a Twitter account! [n.b. it is defunct]
Silver: You do?
Maisy: In 9 years, like Silver said, we’ll still be friends. But probably not as good friends. I’ll probably have a lot of friends and Silver will just be one of those “other” friends. She will definitely not be to me what she is now.
Me: Wow, you girls are cold.
Me: No, you’re right. It’s rational. So Leslie, any questions?
Leslie: I describe your friendship to other people as “it’s own dynamic”: it’s not just friendship but it’s not quite sistership. There’s something in between there. It’s boundaryless. I mean, neither one of you has a sister. And neither one of you had a best friend before, because you met so young. Y’all just grew up together.
Me: Do you girls agree with that?
Silver: Yeah! [pause] It’s gonna be hard adjusting.
Me: Okay then, really quickly, Silver: who does Maisy have a crush on?
Silver: Um, why would I know that?
Maisy: She’s a loyal friend!
Me: Maisy, who does Silver have a crush on?
Maisy: I don’t know. Seriously. [n.b: They both know]
Have an excellent summer and we’ll be back with all new true stories starting September 2nd, 2015. If you’d like to submit to Tell Us A Story, check out this link.
Tears! so sweet. They will always be close… though they seem to think they won’t. Love them. Love pics f stella
Thank you Amanda. This is them in all their honesty, but they talk as if they’re old souls. They have built a solid friendship. I remember when we met Maisy..at Krispy Kreme, they were just a bit over two and Silver said, “there’s my best friend Maisy” and we got her as another grandaughter. 🙂
This is really lovely. I remember having these feelings when I moved away from all of my friends (from Colorado to Tennessee) when I was the same age. I kept up with my best friend Bree for decades (long, long, long before the internet)–I got copies of her letters when she was in the Peace Corps in Nepal. They will always treasure this story.
Thank you so much for this, Amanda. It’s really meaningful, beyond what I can adequately express, to have the chance to reflect on how Silver’s grown over the past 9 years… how she’s become a full person with deep emotional attachments and awareness of the world around her. I’m so glad for her to have made such a tight bond with Maisy — a bond that’s totally loving, totally messy, totally authentic.